However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come. John 16:13
If we’re not going to run around like headless chickens trying to figure out what’s God’s plan for our kids, how will we know? That’s an excellent question and God knew it was coming! I’ll tell you how He laid it out for me.
If you brought a new car home and had questions about its features and capabilities, what would you do? You wouldn’t call the mechanic because he didn’t build the car. You’d probably look in the manual first since it answers basic questions. However, if you wondered about something not specifically covered in the manual, you’re next move would be the 800 number. The person on the other end of the line’s sole purpose is to tell you whatever you need to know about your vehicle.
As we memorize then verbally rehearse (the meaning of the Hebrew word for meditate in Joshua 1:8 and Psalm 1:2) Scripture verses, we can get practical insight that’s relevant to all of our children. There are times, however, we have a specific question about a particular child but the answer doesn’t jump off the pages of Scripture. That’s because we need the counsel of the Authorized Representative of the Manufacturer–the Holy Spirit. Jesus told His disciples the Holy Spirit would “guide them into all truth” telling them only what He has heard and what is to come (John 16:13). The Holy Spirit is the one who highlights a text and tells you exactly what child it pertains to and how. He hears directly from the Lord tasked with telling you what He’s heard…if we ask. So when you ask the Lord for insight into a specific issue regarding your child, read His Word expecting His specific response.
The Holy Spirit also clues us in by giving us grace to notice their gifting and natural abilities. There is nothing random about our children. They are expertly handcrafted by God (Psalm 139:13-15), so take note of what they’re drawn to and sow into that. No point in wasting money on saxophone lessons if your son beats on everything resembling a drum or draws amazing pictures or has a mean jump shot. Pay attention to the area God is moving in and follow His lead (Numbers 9:21, 22 NLT). By His Spirit He will show you what gifts and talents to nurture and when, since some things are a matter of maturity. Our oldest, who is seven, has been drawn to the drums since he was a year old and has a good ear for beats, but two drum sets later we’ve realized his raw talent needs direction! When he is mature enough to commit to lessons and the practice time that goes with it, we’ll happily invest in a new drum set.
When we rest assured God has a good plan for our children, we’re free to see how He has uniquely gifted them. Then we can confidently follow the Holy Spirit’s lead in preparing them for what God has planned for them. Don’t you love God’s sense of humor? He waits until we’re “good and grown” (or so we think) to invite us to a life-long experience of follow the leader!
© Vanessa A. Harris and The Legacy of Faith, 2011