I know. “Intentionally desired” sounds awkward, but go with me for a minute.

It’s just a fancy way of saying you want to be wanted. Not tolerated or accepted out of pity or as an oops your parents took responsibility for—but chosen.

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart…Jeremiah 1:5

I know the plans I have for you…plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you and hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

That regardless of the circumstances of your conception or the perceptions of your peers, you were planned, prepared for and purposed to add unique value in the earth. That God chose you to show off an aspect of Himself no one else does.

Nothing about your existence is an accident. You’re not a weed that snuck into the flowerbed. God planted you here because after consulting with himself, he thought you were a good idea—period.

Are you wanted? You certainly are.


To know your skin, your hair color, its texture, your curves (or the lack thereof), your laugh, your smile and your natural quirks and tendencies aren’t outcomes spit out by a cosmic randomizer. That there’s purpose to every part of you—by intentional design.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14

You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you. Song of Songs 4:7

Yes, you want to know what sets you apart is an asset, not a detriment. You are not haphazard. You are God’s workmanship, his masterpiece, which is why you won’t find peace looking at another “girl’s” social media feed.

Countless thoughts went into making you just the way you are, fit for what God created you to do. Not only did he make you in his image, when he did, he said, “that’s good.” So, why should you agree with anyone who says otherwise?

There’s something about the questions: “does anyone want me” and “am I okay as I am” that only a daddy can answer.

I’ve enjoyed the blessing of a father affirming me with his presence and his interest in me. I also know the devastation when all that changes. When you go from a delightful daddy’s girl to a dethroned one.

The rejection shook me and left me insecure. Did I do something wrong? Maybe if I work harder and accomplish more, I’ll show him and everyone else, I’m worth it.

But the answer to my ache was never in a person’s approval, and the reality I knew as a cherished, confident, and secure daddy’s girl wasn’t just for the little girl in me. The adult me needed that too.

I’m still that girl, and I only go as high as my foundation is solid.


So, when I sat down to write a book for moms, God stopped me and said he had something to say to us as daughters first. I thought I’d just be the scribe, but it turns out I was his first student.

A believer since age 19 and here he was re-introducing himself to me—separate from my experience with my dad and different from how he’s typically portrayed in church.

You may or may not have grown up with your dad, and you may know God. But have you met DADDY God? The Father of “Father, Son, and Holy Spirit,” who relishes you as his own and loves you with an unconditional love? Who sees your unanswered questions, your broken heart, and invites you to know his?

I walked with him for years before I knew his heart for me, so I’d love to reintroduce you to him.

And in honor of the 5th anniversary of DADDY’s Girl Forever: Come Home to the Truth About God’s Heart Towards You, it’s now available as an audiobook!

Give DADDY God your ear while you do laundry, shuttle the kids, eat lunch in your office, and all the things and let his love wash over and heal wounds the little girl in you has been crying about for years.

The book’s available on Audible and if you don’t have an account yet, you can listen to my book for FREE and enjoy a FREE 30-day membership to enjoy other books you’ve been meaning to listen to. Just be sure to use THIS LINK to receive those benefits.

Maybe your dad couldn’t give you what a girl wants, but you’re not left short-changed. You have a DADDY who’s more than willing to meet your needs and satisfy your wants.

Will you let him?

I’m rooting for you!


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