Who, being in very nature God,
    did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
rather, he made himself nothing
    by taking the very nature of a servant,
    being made in human likeness.
And being found in appearance as a man,
    he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!

Philippians 2:6-8, NIV

About a week ago, the reality of these verses brought me to tears, realizing Jesus surrendered everything but His identity as the Son of God to dwell among us.

The King of Glory was born Kid Ordinary (so it appeared).


But it’s because He knew who He was, the Son of God, that He flourished with poise and power as a man.

Jesus rooted and grounded himself in his identity every time he stole away to fellowship with the Father in prayer.

And his Sonship is what He referred to when questioned about the validity, and by what authority He moved as He did on the earth.

And receiving Jesus requires surrender on our end.


Surrender of the ways we previously categorized or defined ourselves, as well as surrender of our fleshly tendencies (worry, fear, doubt) to not only lay hold of our new identity in Christ, but to walk it out on the earth.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

2 Corinthians 5:17, NKJV

The surrender is a constant casting away of these labels and liabilities to God because He cares for us. And because He defines who we are.


Father, worry about my financial security is not worthy of me as a child of God, so I toss that to You.

I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread. [Psalm 37:25]

Father, fear of dying early is not worthy of me as your child, so I toss that to You.

You said that because I dwell in the secret place of the Most High, with long life, You will satisfy me and show me your salvation. [Psalm 91:1, 16]

DADDY, I doubt the destiny You told me will ever come to pass, but that doubt is not worthy of me as your daughter, so I toss that to You.

Not one of your words concerning me will fall to the ground. But they will accomplish the things You sent them to do. [Isaiah 55:11] So I surrender doubt and agree with what You’ve said about me.


Forgetting those things which are behind, I press toward who You call me. I surrender all that does not serve who You say I am.

This is my hope for you too, friend.

I’m rooting for you!


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